When you combine two words that are polar opposites of one another, you end up with an oxymoron. For example: Perfect Peace or Jumbo Shrimp.
Let’s talk about Perfect Peace. Perfection is a trap. It’s not possible; even nature has flaws. In fact, even scientific programs have flaws. I talked to an engineer recently who told me that engineers always account for the imperfections in their programming because even they know that 100% perfection is not possible.
I cringe whenever someone says, “I can’t help it; I’m a Perfectionist” for two reasons:
1. They are saying the word, “can’t” which becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy EVERY TIME and
2. They are claiming Perfectionism as a title or badge to wear around, knowing full well that what they have been shooting for is a completely unrealistic goal, and yet – they keep on doing it.
As a result, Perfectionists are victims to themselves and the world around them.
People who shoot for Excellence and Phenomenal - these are people I love to be around. Les Brown says, “Shoot for the moon because even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars!” Now, that’s more like it!
There are two other words that are polar opposites from one another: Anxiety and Depression.
· Anxiety is nervousness that can eventually turn into a 100 on a scale of 0-100 with 0 representing a feeling of peace and contentment and 100 representing panic.
· And, Depression is hopelessness at a -100 on a scale of -100 to 100 with -100 representing the most depressed and hopeless a person can be and 100 representing the most hopeful a person can be.
People who are experiencing a lot of anxiety (intense energy that has no constructive route to travel) are typically also experiencing a lot of depression. This occurs because once the person panics with intense energy but doesn’t release it toward a constructive purpose, they crash. And, when they crash, they beat themselves up for having done so. When this happens long enough, the weight of it all settles on them like a 1,000 pound truck and they feel “pressed down” or more commonly called “Depressed” on a consistent basis.